Is it painful at first?

Started by natasha proud, Aug 13, 2022, 07:01 AM

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natasha proud

Hello everyone. I am 24 years old and i never had sex. Tomorrow is my marriage and i am so curious how to do it! It also scares me.
 Does it hurt? Is it very painful for a girl to do it first time? Let me know how to overcome my fear and also should i take any kind of painkiller before doing it? My partner has a big dick which make me way more scared.
Help me out homies!

Loreeana ms. brunette

I think the best option will be take it easy and keep in your head that first time isn't always so great. I think what may help you is talking it through with your partner, find out what he likes, what you like and mix it together into a whole - whole life ahead for you to practise so no worries. It may be a bit painful but I think that overall it is not so big price to pay. You can always tell your husband to slow down in case you feel uncomfortable. Never heard of taking painkillers before tho


Everyone's "first time" is different. But one of the most important parts of being prepared for sex is making sure you use birth control and condoms to help prevent pregnancy and STDs. Here's what happens when you lose your virginity.
The first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt, or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a penis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesn't happen to everybody. Some people naturally have more hymenal tissue than others — this pain and bleeding can happen when their hymen gets stretched.

If pain and bleeding doesn't get better after the first time you have vaginal sex (penis-in-vagina), you can slowly stretch your hymen tissue with your fingers over time to make it less painful. In rare cases, people may need to see a doctor for a small procedure to open their hymen. If you're worried about your hymen or have pain during sex, talk with your doctor
Moreover, you can always talk to your partner about it. Tell him if it gets painful..Communicate better and do ot efficiently. Make your first night memorable girl.
You can surely do it !


Some of the virgins I have been with took it a bit hard while for other it was not a big deal. I guess it depends on your body and on how nervous you'll be. I hope your husband is more experienced than you, so he will know what to do to make it easier for you. If he is a virgin too, it might be a bit awkward. But eventually it will pass. The female vagina can give birth to a baby so it can take a dick no matter how big it may be


wHY ARE YOU SCARING HER zigibulbul?! Shame on you.
Natasha, EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK. Its only a dick.
We have all been there (At least until some of us decided to go for pussies instead)

Amira Ibrahim

Its totally okay to be nervous at your first time. All of us have been there and there is no surprise to it.
Today you are scared tomorrow you would not be.
I hope you will be enjoying these moments soon. Having sex is amazing feeling.
You know,sex makes you happy and is very good for heart.
People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.
Be cool about it. Everyone goes through first time to get the actual pleasure of sex in future. Stay excited. You can surely do it my love!
Rule with the heart of a servant. Serve with a heart of a king


Don't be scared. It doesn't hurt. Even if you do it from the back door it won't hurt. Of course, provided that the guy is gentle. If he acts like a brute, then he is a bad choice for your first lover

babunic man

In general, the penis owners don't feel any pain unless the penis owner does something silly like jamming the penis against some place other than the vagina. If the sex is very vigorous there may be some soreness after.

For women, if she is a virgin who has never had anything in her vagina before, (fingers, vegetables, dildos, vibrators, tampons, etc) the stretching may be uncomfortable, especially if she is very tense, and if she is not given the chance to generate natural lubrication. (She's not wet.)

For many women, the hymen (Google it if you don't know what this is) isn't a problem as various activities ranging from sport to masturbation, have already broken it enough for intercourse to go on without any noticeable problem or pain. On the other hand, there are some women who have an intact hymen, in which case there might be varying amounts of pain the first time she is penetrated, and some minor traces of blood.

In fairly rare cases, the hymen may be very robust and hard to break. Some even need to doctor's help.

Young couples have been having first-time sex for thousands of years with little problem other than angry parents or accidental pregnancies, so I wouldn't worry. Just be gentle and make sure the woman feels free to express any discomfort and to stop if there is real pain, just like any activity involving couples such as dancing or martial arts.


I have been with many virgins and no one complained about pains. It's just important to make sure the area is well lubricated before penetration. Its usually wet because the girl is stimulated (I am an ace when it comes to foreplay), but if not, you can use a lubricant
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